Transformative Lessons from my Joint Family

Living in a joint family taught me lessons I never expected which became the foundation of my teachings.

In 2010, I got married and entered a new chapter of my life. As an only child to my parents, I grew up in a close-knit but quiet setup. Suddenly, I found myself in a joint family of 10 to 14 people, spanning four generations, all living under one roof. It was a whirlwind of relationships, emotions, expectations and assumptions.

Each day, I had to maintain harmony with everyone from the youngest child to the oldest elder. But if one person upset me, it was nearly impossible to carry on with a smile for the others. Over time, the strain built up and I felt increasingly choked and overwhelmed. Balancing these relationships seemed impossible—until my Divine intervened.

For three years, I woke up at 3 a.m. every single morning to sit with my  Divine ( Antharyamin- inner voice) with a list of grievances, convinced to blame that others were wrong. Yet, every time, my Divine turned the mirror towards me.

In those quiet, sacred hours, I worked through my everyday triggers and irritations. With abundant Grace, He revealed the deeper truths:

• The patterns I had carried since childhood.

• The judgments and comments I had unknowingly passed.

• Suppressed emotions from past experiences, even from my time in my mother’s womb.

• Lessons from past lives that continued to shape my reactions.

When I stopped pointing fingers outward, I found the key within myself.

Day by day, I confronted my own limitations and dissolved them with His guidance. Each morning, I would step into the pooja room with anger, challenging Him to send me out with bliss—and every single time, He worked His magic. At the end of every session my Divine left me in a state of joy, ecstasy and peace. I learnt that “Challenges are the Divine’s way of refining us into our truest selves."

The processes my Divine conducted for me daily were not just solutions—they were life-changing tools that healed me, guided me, explored newer dimensions spiritually and equipped me to face life’s challenges with clarity. Today, I want to do the same for others who feel stuck, as I now understand the root causes and the path to freedom.

What once felt overwhelming has become my greatest blessing. My joint family, which initially challenged me, is now the biggest gift of my life. I’ve come to see its beauty and value and it has shaped me in ways I could never have imagined.

These teachings, born from my own journey inward, are my offering to the world—a chance to help others heal, transform and embrace the fullness of life

My Trust and Love for my Divine grew deeper as my blame turned into clarity and triggers became the doorway to transformation.